Active Listening In A Time Of Need

When families are grieving it can be very difficult to put their thoughts together and create a Eulogy.  Often times I am called to actively listen and write a Eulogy for the family.  This is not a typical service for a Clergy to provide.  I have found through my years of experience, that a Clergy is well qualified to actively listen and make note of all the good.  This is a vital part of creating the Memorial Service.

Everyone deserves a reverent, respectful ceremony.  Every family wants to provide the best, most loving goodbye possible.

I am also able to work with any Funeral Director, or recommend one.  I have had the privilege of working with many wonderful Funeral Directors in the Greater Boston area. 

Every single one of my ceremonies is completely different from the last.  I approach each consultation brand new with the needs of the family foremost in my mind.

Rev Lee

Diversity in Ceremonies - IT ALL WORKS

It's important for a Clergy to be able to switch gears quickly and flow with a family's needs.  I have rewritten an entire ceremony thirty minutes prior.  I usually spend several hours with passages, material and writing a sermon.  Each ceremony is brand new, and at times even more brand new on the spot.
Often  when folks are grieving they are terribly worried about sending their loved one off perfectly.  I reassure them with love at the helm it always ends up perfectly.  "Love never fails." Corinthians.
I have written and presided over ceremonies leading Catholic, Presbyterian, Baptist and prayers of every religion, to ceremonies where God was never mentioned.  Why have these all been so reverent and special?  Because the intention is set the moment I get the call a family is in need.  Once my intention is set there is no rest until the family member who contacted me is at peace and content with the send off.
Today the Widow was disappointed the Funeral Director didn't have the guests sit and listen to a song at the end of the service.   At the end of the graveside ceremony I suggested she play the song from her phone.  The sound of friends and family singing along to the music like angels began to come forth, it was moving, on the spot and PERFECT.  With an open heart there are no mistakes and we could have not planned a more perfect moment.  Standing with the Funeral Director we both had tears in our eyes, a moment neither of us planned, yet it turned out better than we could have.